You seem very forgiving towards your family, even though you have been treated poorly, you still want them in your life.
You have major unresolved issues, and these issues will and are preventing you from moving forward until they can be resolved.
Your asking for acceptance and for your family to be truthful and responsible for their actions towards you….by admitting their injustice.
You may never get what you need to hear from them. With them in your life it will always be turmoil and dysfunctional….it may be necessary for you to move forward for a new beginning in your life with out them.
Put you and your new family first……and let go!